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**Title:** Embracing the Humanity of Mentors and Healers: A Journey Towards Healing
Do you give your mentors and healers the courtesy of being human?
This has come up a few times this week, more than 9 different folks to be exact have had a level of reactivity to perceived human error I personally reserved for hate crimes or abuse.
I’m concerned that maybe the over commodification of perceived perfection and the misdirected rage folks are a result of an “I paid you and you owe me infallibility.
No one is so conscious they’re no longer human, I mean unless you believe the story of Jesus as told by people who use double standards. [I have a bachelor in Biblical Studies and critical thinking and said what I said]
I get activated and sometimes triggered by my mentors all the time. Heck, KC Volard and I had a few conversations where i joked about how many times I left the community of AMAZING PEOPLE because of a gaping oozing mother wound and sister wound.
It was through seeing my mentors and community rise in the fullness of their humanity in full integration with their divinity that I’ve released the pain of those wounds. It will be an ongoing journey for me.
My job and sacred honour as a conscious human being is to first turn inward with love and curiosity and ask when I last remember feeling at way, especially if I was feeling vulnerable when that feeling was last present.
Because at the end of the day, I can choose not to be offended and still allow myself to hurt. I can also do the opposite. And in times when it’s needed—I can choose to do both. The tricky part is giving myself the time needed to do so.
There’s a super toxic literal interpretation of “don’t let the sun go down on your anger” where by more conservative Christians think I should confess my being offended to the person I believed wronged me, forgive them and ask forgiveness for my anger. Because elsewhere in the same book it says holding hate in your heart is the same as murder…where was I…right
What if it means don’t hold a grudge because time is short?
What if it means tomorrow is a new day and let that shit go?
What if we took people off pedestals and saw them as whole people, would it release that projected self resentment?
Maybe. I know that I’m glad I’ve moved past having to have perfection.
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