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Unveiling the Layers: the intricacies of self expression and authenticity

March 04, 20242 min read

Unveiling the Layers: The Intricacies of Self-Expression and Authenticity

In the mosaic of human interaction, each of us wears a mask, not in the guise of deception but as a complex tapestry of self-expression. This mask isn't singular but multifaceted, changing hues and textures based on the array of stages we perform upon daily.

Understanding this phenomenon involves examining the exterior of this mask - the visible layers that articulate our identity to the world. It's the collage of signals, choices, and symbols that narrate the story of who we are, or perhaps, who we choose to project.

Take, for instance, the personal narrative of an individual adorned with red headphones, glasses, and pins that signify inclusivity, autism awareness, and a plea for personal space respect. These are not mere accessories but declarations of identity, values, and boundaries. They serve as immediate indicators of the wearer's personality, advocacy, and preferences before a single word is exchanged. This curated exterior is a form of non-verbal communication, rich with information for those who know how to interpret it.

Yet, the depth of one's identity cannot be fully captured in these outward expressions. As relationships deepen, the mask becomes more transparent, revealing the nuances and quirks that lie beneath. A partner may understand the significance behind the choice of comfortable clothing due to sensory sensitivities associated with autism, a reality unknown to the casual observer. This preference for comfort over conventional fashion norms isn't a mere style choice but a necessity to navigate the world without distress.

Moreover, the external cues can hint at deeper layers of a person's nature and experiences. An unending stream of words not as a sign of rudeness, but as a method of processing the world externally through verbal expression. A love for cats, discovered unexpectedly, can reveal a capacity for high empathy and adaptability in one's identity.

These revelations underscore the complex interplay between the visible and invisible aspects of our identities. They remind us that every person we encounter is a confluence of stories, experiences, and characteristics that are partially visible on the surface but fully understood only through time and interaction.

"In essence, our masks are not static but dynamic, evolving with our experiences and the contexts in which we find ourselves. "

They are a testament to our multifaceted nature, inviting others to look beyond the surface and discover the depth of our individuality. As we navigate the social tapestry, let us be mindful of the masks we encounter, engaging with empathy and curiosity to uncover the rich narratives each person carries.

Through understanding and acceptance, we can create a tapestry of human connections that celebrates authenticity and diversity in all its forms.

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MEET THE FOUNDER & CEO

Hey, I'm Cheryl (They/Them)

I'm an autistic, ADHD-having, multi-certified, queer femme with two degrees, several micro-credentials, and a lifetime of unmasking.

I’m also a recovering perfectionist, serial self-learner, and someone who has survived (and now thrives) beyond generational trauma, burnout, and the systems that weren’t built for people like us.

I built this work because I couldn’t find the support I needed—so I created it. Now I help other neurodivergent entrepreneurs do the same: reclaim their energy, unlearn shame, and create sustainable systems of success.

What I Stand For.

Radical self-compassion over hustle culture

Accessible, inclusive support over rigid coaching models

Creative sovereignty over productivity for productivity’s sake

What We Don't Do Around Here:

  • Toxic hustle disguised as “high performance”

    We're not here for burnout culture or pretending exhaustion is a badge of honor.

  • Motivation rooted in shame

    You won’t find any “not good enough” energy here. We build from self-trust, not self-criticism.

  • Trying to fit people into a “normal” box

    You’re not too much or too weird — you’re just right. Neurodivergence, queerness, creativity, and complexity are welcome here.

What People Say

"Cheryl is the first coach who didn’t try to fix me—they helped me understand myself."

 "I didn’t know coaching could feel like this. Empowering, safe, and actually useful for me."

"I finally feel like I’m not broken. I’m just wired differently—and that’s okay."

Offers That Work WITH Your Wiring

Not against it 😮

Private Pocket
Coaching

  • Flexible, on-demand coaching via text + voice notes. For when you need real-time support without small talk or pressure

Quiz + Tailored Resources 

  • Take the quiz, discover your type, and receive targeted insights that feel like a warm hug and a permission slip

Hidden: Beneath the Masks We Wear

  • A guided journey for emotional academics (and the rest of us) to explore self-leadership, identity, and autistic liberation

Still Masking?

Ready for Something New?

You’ve tried fitting yourself into the wrong systems. What if we built one for you instead?

Let’s do this together.

Before my coaching journey with Cheryl, I was lost in a maze of unsorted thoughts and feelings, struggling to focus or find clarity in my life. Dealing with trauma and its repercussions felt like navigating through an endless storm. Cheryl's guidance was a beacon of light in that chaos.

Their approach, though uncompromising and direct, empowered me to confront my issues head-on. They equipped me with practical techniques tailored to my daily struggles, fostering resilience and self-awareness.

I've learned that healing isn't about being "fixed"—it's about growing stronger and more capable of facing life's challenges. Thanks to Cheryl, I now possess the tools to tackle each day with confidence. I am immensely thankful for their support and the transformative journey they guided me through. - Mandi she/her Canada

Cheryl has been amazing in helping me tap into my own energy and really get the most out of our sessions.

What's really cool about them is how they make everything super inclusive and easy to get into. They've gone out of their way to make sure everything we do fits what I can do and where I'm at, creating this super welcoming vibe that makes it easy to just be myself and open up.

They've got this knack for making you feel seen and heard. No matter what we're working on, I never feel judged or out of place. Cheryl's makes sure you're comfortable and uses strategies that are actually doable for me. It's been a game-changer, honestly. Having their support and knowing they're always there to guide me, but in a way that feels more like a partnership, has been huge for my personal growth. I'm really thankful for how they've helped me and made this journey so much more manageable and meaningful. - Erin they/she Canada

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Do you offer refunds?

No. I do not offer refunds.

What if I need to miss a video or voice call?

You can roll any unused video or voice calls forward to your next month. The plan is flexible based on your needs. Calls can be booked as far in advance as you like. Set them and forget them with appointment reminders sent right to your inbox!

If you’re experiencing financial hardship, you have the option to pause payments for 30 or 60 days one time.

I know that life happens, I am here to support you!

🌿 Land Acknowledgement


Cheryl lives, works, and creates on the unceded and traditional territories of the Snuneymuxw First Nation, on the land known today as Nanaimo, BC.


As a settler, Cheryl honours the enduring presence, strength, and sovereignty of the Snuneymuxw people since time immemorial. Queer Alchemy is committed to ongoing listening, unlearning, and actions that support decolonization, accessibility, and collective liberation.
Check out some Reconciliation resources here


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